Posted by margie24 on June 8, 2005, at 22:37:33
In reply to Re: Can't get past this HATRED! » margie24, posted by JenStar on June 8, 2005, at 21:08:37
About the list of rules. No, we weren't having big issues then. That's why it was so weird. The last "rule" said something like "we don't feel it's necessary to be at every birthday gathering from here on out." My bro would never say that! I really feel like she just wanted us gone. Maybe the fact that their are 3 sisters bothers her, who knows. Truly, it's a mystery to us all. My mom and sister both, seperately had lunch with my brother to talk about why they sent the email of rules and what's going on (Barf was invited, but only came when my sister met with them.) When my mom and bro met, she said it was just like they were strangers. When my sister met, her goal was to find out what they needed from us in order to feel comfortable.
Still, no one knows what the hell happened. I just think we threaten her plans with him, honestly.I just got married in Dec. There is no way I wouldn't ask my mother-in-law who I should send an invite to. No way. I simply communicated to her how many I felt would work out. It wasn't friends that my mom wanted to invite, it was her cousin!
The ring thing, I just have my own opinions about this I guess. I think weddings and engagements have lost their romance. It seems like we miss the whole point sometimes. Many of my friends had a hand in the ring thing too. I guess I understand, they want to like it.
Speaking of the ring, can I tell you where it went down hill for she and I?
They got engaged 2 years ago. My mom told me and I called them to congratulate. Only my brother was there and so I talked to him for a while. Toward the end I asked about the ring. Did she like it? He told me she already sort of knew, that she'd drawn a picture based on one they'd seen and this designer made it. I asked who the designer was because I had a ring made as well. He told me and I was like, Oh my gosh, I know him. Isn't he nice...blah, blah, blah.
We hang up and she calls me fifteen minutes later and says. "I'm really disappointed with [my bro]. We had an agreement that the details of my ring would not be discussed. I overheard him talking to you when I came home. I would appreciate it if you would keep that to yourself."
I was stunned. Speechless. I'll never forget it. To this day I don't get it. I called my bro later that evening becasue I couldn't put it to rest. I wanted an explanation from her. He told me he was sorry and that he would have her call me, that she had no right to speak to me that way. I told him I didn't want an apology, I just wondered if he could tell me why the heck she cared.
Oh, by the way...my mom wasn't given a mother's day gift the next month because as she told me, "they" couldn't afford it.I'm such a nutt. I could go on and on. I leave tomorrow for the wedding. I'm just grabbing for any piece of mind I can get.
If it wasn;t for this message board, I'd be in a much crumbier place. I've been humbled I guess. When you see a consensus among responses here saying it's not my business, I have to accept that. Why do I keeop thinking it is my business!!?
Anyway,
Thanks so much,
Margie
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