Posted by gardenergirl on June 8, 2005, at 14:03:51
In reply to Can't get past this HATRED!, posted by margie24 on June 8, 2005, at 2:46:39
margie,
I'm sorry you are in this position. I've been blessed with (mostly) good inlaws, so I can't speak from experience, here. I think Auntie Mel's advice to focus on supporting your parents is good.Also, I do think I understand wanting to put someone in their place, so to speak. Or wanting to let someone know you are on to them. That's risky for a number of reasons, as you have already thought through, it seems. Would it help to write it all down in a letter to your brother's fiancee, read it outloud to someone you trust, and then destroy it? Sometimes it helps to lessen the intensity of feelings such as you describe to do something like that. Just don't send it if you want to preserve some relationship with your brother.
I hope you find some happy moments at the wedding with the other guests, at least. Let us know how it goes.
And you're not barging in. That's what we are here for.
gg
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