Posted by margie24 on June 8, 2005, at 15:40:20
In reply to Re: Can't get past this HATRED!, posted by AuntieMel on June 8, 2005, at 9:07:14
Auntie Mel, Thank a lot. I hope I begin to see signs that my brother is happy. That's all I want. Right now he seems lifeless, robotic.
Susan, there is no "poor girl". We are not evil in the least bit. You are filtering in your own experience and bashing me. I'm sorry your experience has left such a scar, but that doesn't mean every chick who doesn't like her sister-in-law and loves her brother is vicious and cruel. As I've already replied to you, I know I made mistakes. I need to live and let live. But this has never been one sided.
I do not want my brother all to myslef. We've never been that close, nothing has really changed for us. I just want him to be happy, not appearing as though he's being drug around by a leash.Gardener, yes I have looked at my part AGAIN and AGAIN and AGAIN. My motives, my insecurities, my subconscious,...I do not drive a Lexus or wear a huge ring. I'm a saver. Yes, her ring is beautiful. It's amazing in fact. But, it's just a ring afterall. I just thought an engagement ring was suppose to be a suprise, a gift from your husband. If I had more money, I still don't think I'd change my car. I am a teacher, and I love my job. She always looks so nice and I'm all about jeans and t-shirts, so maybe I envy her put-togetherness. But I like being comfortable. I have thought a lot about jealousy. Her family is wealthy and I guess she's always been a big shopper. She learned the importance of "things" from what I gather. I grew up very middle class and shopping for the sake of shopping was never something I learned. Paying too much for things was something we tried not to do. I hope I've allowed that to be just a difference between us, and not a source of jealousy. I can afford to dress in nicer clothes, I just chose not to. Maybe I haven't tried hard enough to understand her beliefs and values. I don't know.
Thanks so much for the input guys. Thanks for taking time to advise me.
Margie
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