Posted by JenStar on June 8, 2005, at 23:50:39
In reply to Re: Can't get past this HATRED!, posted by margie24 on June 8, 2005, at 22:48:35
hi Margie,
actually I've been married for years already! :)I agree that in an ideal world the wedding would or should be about family and gathering & togetherness, but most of the weddings I've been to were not exactly like that. For most of them, including my siblings, the bride spent months agonizing over dresses and silverware and place setting and meals, and then on the day of the wedding, she was too stressed to really mingle and have that togetherness. (My hubby and I had a tiny wedding, so it was much different for us!) I know that each bride had pockets of fun, and bits of genuine enjoyment with family, but the whole 'event-ness' of the thing was somewhat overwhelming.
But I think the wedding is really for the bride, not so much for the groom. The bride gets to make all the choices, typically arranges everything, and she's the "star" of the day. Of course the groom is THERE too (very important part!) but to me, anyway, it seems that weddings are more about the girl.
I'm sure that not everyone feels that way or has experienced that, so please don't take offense!
But from what you describe of your soon-to-be sister in law, she will most likely be the type who wants the day to be all about her...
Also, I don't think you should feel humbled by any post here. You know more about the situation than can probably be described, we're all just trying to offer other perspectives. Since we don't really know you or the family, we're all just making our best suggestions based on our experiences. At least, that is what I'm doing!
She does sound difficult...
do you think you can enjoy the wedding at all?JenStar
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