Posted by annierose on June 9, 2005, at 7:20:55
In reply to Re: Can't get past this HATRED!, posted by margie24 on June 9, 2005, at 2:33:13
Margie -
Please keep us posted on the events of the weekend.
I agree that you are in a no-win situation. With time your relationship with your sister-in-law may improve. She sounds incredibly self-centered. Maybe she is jealous. Does she have any siblings? An only child can feel left out of the comradity of a large family.
Have faith and hope. Try to give her the benefit of the doubt when appropriate and possible for the sake of your relationship with your brother.
A few weeks after the wedding, I would try to arrange lunch with her. Ask her pointedly, "you seem to be quite angry with me, is there something I did that bothered you?" or "I would like you to feel more comfortable with our large family gatherings, how can I help?"
All you can do is extend the olive branch. If she declines it, that says a lot about her.
Good Luck.
Annierose
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