Posted by Susan47 on June 8, 2005, at 11:35:07
In reply to Re: Can't get past this HATRED!, posted by AuntieMel on June 8, 2005, at 9:07:14
Three years difference, he's not the baby but still, you must see what's going on. That poor woman couldn't win no matter what she did. I don't blame her one bit for giving up and turning her back on you. And of course, he has to do it too. Because he has to live with her, you don't. And if you were wise, if you could learn to look inside yourself honestly, you'd figure out what means more to you.. loving your brother and accepting his family or having power to hurt them, and using it.
I feel no empathy for you other than that reserved for the blind.
I could be wrong.
I wish I were.
But it's scary to think there are others in your family who feel as you do.
That poor man.
I feel sorry for him.
My ex-sis-in-law did everything she could to make me feel unwelcome, in the most back-stabbing, gossiping, bitchy little female ways possible. She couldn't see that I wasn't the same as her. She couldn't stomach handing over her brother, her protector/the protected, to anyone else.
She destroyed what might have been a good relationship.
But she had no choice. She is also blind. She may go to her grave that way. But she has her brother back, now, two children don't have parents who are together .. and my ex- and I realize how well things might have been .. together.
But he can't let go. No matter how much he dislikes his mother and his sisters and his brother, I'm telling you honey, do you think your brother appreciates your attitude?.. no matter how much he dislikes them, he has to put up with them because they're always a part of his past, they have hooks in him and they'll never let them go because they'll never learn to grow up and stand on their own, without the family of their childhood.
What you're doing is really, really sad.
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