Posted by Willful on March 29, 2014, at 13:56:23
In reply to divorce?, posted by baseball55 on March 27, 2014, at 20:09:06
Hi baseball,
I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through such a grueling experience, especially with your decision somewhat clouded by the financial issues,
I wish I could even begin to advise you, none of us can do more than try to listen while you sort this out.
Ne can really solve such a dilemma of love or lack of love and abandonment from the outside.--even if we were there, it would be so driven by our own personal experience, values, and needs that we would be doing you a terrible disservice. Plus, in the end, you'll have to live with any choice-- with starting over, with him or alone-- especially in difficult economic circumstances.
But it might help if you wrote out what you're thinking and feeling-- either to post here, or not, as it feels best. Because I"m sure your mind is in a whirl of comflicting thoughts and feelings-- some rational, some not-- but just too much to encounter rationally at first.
If your husband is being kind-- but thinks it's okay to continue the affair, while you stay with him, I have to quesiton how deep this kindness is-- and whether it isn't manipulation, -- and I wonder how long-lived it would be should you stay.
You probably could benefit from talking to him about how to resolve the financial issues-- as the groundwork for moving on to the emotional ones. And maybe you can talk with your pdoc more intensively until things become more clear.
Sounds like your husband has an agenda-- so I hope you can get clear on what's best for you-- because it may be hard to untantle when you're in such a conflicted state.
I have a friend going through a very painful breakup-- and after watching her struggle to a somewhat better place, I have a lot of hope that you will get though this--. and hope that you'll move into a better situation, and find your answers soon,
Emsam.
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