Posted by baseball55 on April 1, 2014, at 19:53:39
In reply to Re: divorce? » baseball55, posted by gadchik on April 1, 2014, at 6:33:10
> I hear ya, baseball. You just tell yourself, you'll get through this, over and over. Am I understanding that he wants to be able to have a girlfriend and be married too? A lot of men see nothing wrong in this. Most women, horrified by it. Seems as if you only have the choice to stay and put up with his selfishness, or leave and be financially wrecked. Very difficult. In your mind, do you really think he'd quit his job to avoid alimony, or could this be a tactic to get you to stay?
It's worse than just his cheating, but I don't want to get into all the details. It's not a tolerable situation for me. I don't think he'd quit his job (biting off his nose to spite his face, as the saying goes), but I do think he might bankrupt us both in legal fees. I was surprised by this actually.
When we met with my p-doc and I told him I would probably want to separate, he said he would want everything to end amicably and not get into money conflicts and remain friends, etc. But, as soon as I mentioned alimony (as well as splitting all the 401k money 50-50), he became incensed.
Just $600 a month in alimony would put me over the top financially. He makes twice what I do and can easily afford it.
It's all so ugly. Not what I would have expected after 36 years together.
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