Posted by JenStar on October 14, 2005, at 16:02:40
In reply to Re: You DON'T Need to understand triggers » AuntieMel, posted by Deneb on October 14, 2005, at 12:55:59
Deneb,
I'm glad you noticed that some people's threads, while they contain difficult content and worries about suicide or grave illnesses, don't trigger, anger or irritate others. Instead, those posts mostly garner loving support and kind words for the person who wrote it.Something about your posts must be different, insofar as your posts often seem to elicit different responses --- right?
The posters who receive the kind, loving and caring responses -- not angry ones -- are trusted here. Something about the way they write their own posts and responses to others' posts makes them trusted and valued members here.
If you want the truth, I personally feel that your posts often sound manipulative and deliberate in your use of triggering words and phrases. Sometimes it SEEMS to me that a post written in the style you write MIGHT have been written to "test" or "push buttons."
Now I know that might be greatly offensive to you...but you did ask. And honestly, that's what I think many times when I read your posts. (And part of me thinks you already know it, too, and consequently the fact that you're asking once again makes me think you're TRYING to trigger people here!)
Deneb, you've asked so many times why suicide is triggering. If you don't get it, just accept it. If you continue to post things that people have told you hurts/frustrates/saddens them, don't be surprised when you get angry responses, or if people just sort of drift away from you and stop responding to your posts at all. (Is this an experiment for you...to see how everyone reacts?)
If you're really struggling with this, I really suggest staying with you p-doc. He may not be perfect, but he's s start, and hopefully he can help you with techniques to become more socially adept, studious and able to handle stress management.
good luck. take care.
JenStarIf
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