Posted by giget on June 18, 2003, at 8:15:33
In reply to Re: Kara, also.... (long), posted by wendy b. on June 18, 2003, at 7:48:21
Kara,
This is all so familiar, we seem to be in the same situation.
He is trying to blame you for everything that has gone wronge since you have been together. That is not right, he was a player in the relationship also. His problems are just that.... something he sees as wronge with himself.
Please don't go back to him. Stand strong. You do NOT need him, I know that you feel that right now. Would you rather be the married couple that everyone looks at the womyn and can not believe she takes his crap.
Love is extrememly important, but for right now focus on the good things, like getting through the test that is something to accomplish. A new place is a new start. Do not take anything that is really meaningful from him into the place... that was part of my problem. No matter where I looked he was all around. Think of this place as a fresh, second chance to be who you are and live the way you always wanted to.
Friends will be there for the late night calls, and the times you just want him to be there. Depend on them, don't call him. He will only trap you into his world again. I have seen to much of this lately, where my ex just used me because he knew I was so in love and would do anything to get him back.
Take the time right now to focus on something else. I know people are going to be mad for me saying this,.,.. but throw yourself into something else. Get so involved that you don't have the time to think about him, at least for the next couple of weeks. Don't take his calls, delete the messages before you listen to them!
I am only giving you advice on how I delt with the situation, nothing else. I do get heated about men using womyn though....
Take it day by day, it will get easier.
Just think this is your chance to find someone who will love you for who you are... they will love you for your faults also. Don't let anyone else push you down again, or you might drown...
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