Posted by ROO on June 20, 2003, at 10:10:57
In reply to I'm scared, please help, posted by kara lynne on June 16, 2003, at 11:53:30
He told me I was a confused, hateful, hideous woman who did not deserve love and would never find it. Oh God,
please don't let this be true. I think it's true.Oh my lord....think of where a person has to be inside
their head to say such a thing. Of course it's not true.
He must be in a lot of pain and not feeling good about himself
to say something like that. It's verbal abuse. I had a boyfriend
who verbally abused me like that after a breakup. He would call
and leave long abusive horrible messages on my answering machine....basically telling
me I was F;;;ked up, ugly, fat and no one would ever love me, etc.
I would sit there and _listen_ to this shit...I couldn't make myself
not listen, even though I should have deleted the messages without
listening to them....and I would feel beat up and bruised inside because
part of me believed it. A big part. Eventually I had to love myself
enough not to expose myself to such poison.You need a lot of support right now to get you through this. If you
can, surround yourself with friends who will give you love and tell them
what's going on so they can comfort you and help with perspective and let
you know this guy is full of shit. Work on being good to yourself and
stay away from his toxic messages as much as you can...you don't need to be
hearing that stuff. It'll wear you down, if you let it.
poster:ROO
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