Posted by Giget on June 16, 2003, at 15:14:58
In reply to Re: I'm scared, please help, posted by tina on June 16, 2003, at 12:24:11
Kara,
I understand completely. I had a long relationship and then one day everything fell apart. He told me the same things, that I was not taking care of him, I was a horrible person, I was fat, and ungly.... goddess this brings back memories. Plus I still have to work with him!!! (to say the least I am thinking about getting another job, after the last depression I can not face him)You are a wonderful person. This man has been playing mind games with you for a long time now, in order for you to believe it. If you look back and think of the first thing that upset you about him, or what he said. Now take that and think, would you have put up with that from someone you just meet? Keep that thought and the feeling with you. You are not wronge for feeling this way, love is blinding. And it is very hard to let your heart heal.
Every time you want to talk to him or see him, just come here. I am always there and going through the same things. This breakup has caused my life to turn upside down. But I am going through it, along with alot of other stuff, with my theripist.
One thing.... FIND A GOOD THERIPIST... someone who you really connect with, someone you feel safe with. You have to be ok with the theripist to be able to talk about the situation thinking that they may not say something you like, but they are helping. I have left sessions so angry, but got home, cried my heart out and understood what they said. It is a painful road but you can make it.....
I still cry everyday, but I am still living!
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