Posted by ST on April 16, 2002, at 22:09:18
In reply to Re: How do you talk to a lover about her state?, posted by Lacey on April 13, 2002, at 11:03:00
Lacey,
You have every right to suggest that she take care of the problem in whatever way she sees fit. But she must take care of the problem; not only because you care about her well being, but also because you are being abused. I respect Mitchell's point of view, but if you are being abused and she is not taking responsibility, you are not wrong to push. Also, sometimes choosing to leave a person and a situation does good for the both of you.
I lost my first long-term relationship because of my untreated manic-depression (bipolar). He just finally had had enouggh. He told me to get help. He told me my mood swings seemed abnormal. I did not seek help. Now, I was not "abusive" in the traditional sense. But I put him through hell with all my suicide threats and emotional tantrums and depressions. After he left it was a wake up call for me.
The man I'm with now inspires me to stay on top and to deal with my illness every day. I really believe we have a responsibilty in committed relationships. We must strive to be good to ourselves so we can be good to each other.
Good luck,
Sarah
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