Posted by lonelygirl on March 27, 2004, at 13:44:17
In reply to Re: curiosity vs. stalking, posted by noa on March 27, 2004, at 11:16:32
I have driven past his apartment complex once (never told him, though!)... I used to be a lot worse about things like this. I literally could not stop myself from driving past the houses of guys I liked, fairly often. But in recent years, I have noticed that for some reason, while the desire is still there (I even get directions to their houses from Expedia), I usually manage to stop myself from doing it. This was actually the first time in a few years that I have actually done it.
I think part of it is that it's 15-20 minutes away, and he lives in an apartment complex, so it's not like I was going to see him there! I didn't even know which building he lives in. I thought briefly about getting out and sort of snooping around the complex (seeing if I could find his mailbox or something), but that was not something I really consided doing. It's sort of like how I am tempted to get a plane ticket to Kansas City and go to the conference where he is presenting next weekend, but obviously I know that is completely ridiculous and I'm not going to do that. Anyway, I still feel a strong desire, on occasion, to go drive past the apartment complex again, but logic wins out (except for the first time) and I realize that it's not even worth it. I guess that means I have managed to satisfy my curiosity and move on.
It is a little harder when I live on campus and pass the health center on my way to class every day (I have class in a building adjacent to the health center). I sort of consider the campus "my territory" -- he just works there. I have a reason to be on campus all day and all night. I could be on my way to the library while he is on his way to his class, and we could cross paths, and I would have a good reason for being there. But, I wouldn't do that anyway, because I want to see him, but I don't want him to see me. I wish I could be literally invisible (I already am, figuratively!) so I could watch people whever I wanted without having them see me.
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