Posted by baseball55 on April 27, 2014, at 19:58:01
So my husband and I signed a legal separation agreement so that he can refinance the mortgage and pay me my share of the equity we have in our home. I am signing an agreement to buy a condo this coming Friday.
He has been more than generous. The appraisal on our home came in much lower than expected, but he is giving me a share based on what we think the place would actually sell for. (The area we live in is all these neighborhoods, some desirable, some not. So it's hard to compare prices from one neighborhood to the next). We also agreed to a fair way to divide up our retirement money and, because he makes a lot more than me, a fair monthly sum he will give me toward my expenses.
He's been helping me look for furniture, helping me figure things out. We want to stay close friends. The place I'm leaving is much bigger than the place I'm moving to, with way more storage and he is fine with my leaving stuff behind and keeping a key so I can get what I need when I need it.
So all is good. I have days when I meltdown, but not as many. I find myself thinking positively -- like, where will I hang this print? What color towels should I get for the bathroom?
I know once I have moved, it's going to be hard. I have lived with him for 36 years. Haven't lived alone since I was 20. But I'm trying to keep positive.
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