Posted by daizy on May 29, 2003, at 6:50:29
In reply to Re: social anxiety/phobia - anyone else? » daizy, posted by girlygirl on May 27, 2003, at 8:54:58
No of course not. Strange that, we have some similarities! If the meds you are taking now seem to be working then I'd stick to them, chopping and changing makes it worse sometimes I think??
I think you did really well not just going to uni once, but twice! I found a lot of people at uni to be false, there was a competitive atmosphere, and Ive only got a few people who I still keep in touch with. When I left I lost quite a few friends, or I thought they were my friends, but havnt bothered keeping in touch. You know thats fine, as long as you've got family and a few friends who you can trust you especially dont need people like that.
It is all about trusting people, I dont trust easily, a bit negative, but its probably from childhood too. Its a hard to change being like that, I still havnt!
About the councelling thing, I think you should try and find someone who does specific things like social phobia's. Ive heard a lot of stuff with social phobia, and that meds alone dont work, you have to have some therapy too. Local college's should run courses in thigs like confidence building. I havnt been brave enough yet, buling the confidence to just get there first!!
> Hi Daizy, just got chance to get back here (don't have internet access at home - in library!). It's basically the same stuff that stops me being able to talk to people. feeling ugly, fat, different, boring etc. When I left uni (first time round) three years ago I didn't say goodbye to a single person, apart from my tutors. I didn't even go to the farewell dinner they held for my year group cos I knew a lot of the people there wouldn't even recognise me.
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> Then I went to uni again (to do a postgrad) a year later and IT HAPPENED AGAIN. This time I managed to make one friend (big breakthrough) but I ended up running out of the goodbye "do" in tears because I felt so isolated. Pathetic or what? Now I've been in my first proper job for 10 mths and never get invited out for a drink, barely know a single person. and i feel like I've really TRIED! It is all about trusting people, I think, and I just can't do it. i was really badly bullied at school (aged 11 to 15) and I think that's what started it. What about you?
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> I don't think my boss is very fond of me but yr right, I think I am just being paranoid about him not liking me. I think I make him uncomfortable.
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> I've had LOADS of counselling (just count up... five or six different ones over the past six years) but never targeted at social anxiety or whatever. and I've tried Prozac, Cipramil (Celexa), Effexor, Dothiepin and Lofepramine. I'm on Lofepramine now with beta blockers. Seems to give me a bit more energy to get out of bed in the morning but that's about it.
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> My ex-boyfriend (who I'm still mates with), is there for me by phone (he lives in a different town) and I've got a few other friends I can talk to on the phone a bit, but in this town there isn't really anyone.. lucky I found this board! Hope I haven't bored the a**e off you!
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> GG xx
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