Posted by trouble on March 4, 2002, at 4:02:13
In reply to riding the turnip truck, posted by sar on February 25, 2002, at 20:08:26
I'm glad you finally replied to my no-nonsense post, Sar, I was worried that you may have been offended by my attitudes.
Just be careful about the names you walk around calling yourself, that can create a self-fulfilling prophecy, and it seems that you're not interested in going down that slippery slope.
As for pornography, I love it, absolutely love it, and have a small collection of hardcore videos marketed for males. I find it amazing the kind of scenarios that turn me on, but there is a recurring theme I'd know nothing about if not for exposure to the pornies. Prostitution is a feature of my fantasy life, which makes sense in light of my childhood sexual abuse.
The only cognitive dissonance I expericence regarding my use of videos is my former assertion about women in this business having been set up for it by childhood victimization, and the way I appease my conschious is to look for evidence of female aggressive delight (though orgasms are asking too much) and skip the vignettes where the actresses are obviously experiencing physical pain, or that "out-of-it" demeanor you earlier described.
Anyway I can have a porn collection, but when I find a prospective suitor also has a bunch of videos that fact goes in the "potential jerk" column. Never can justify that to myself, but that's how I feel. And I would never ever date a man who frequented strip clubs. Nope, I find that behavior in men absolutely predatory, it disgusts me how they can interact w/ actual human beings in such a way, as opposed to the anonymous fantasy fodder generated by the celluloid images. I'm sure I could be considered quite hypocritical in these permutations but I've yet to find anyone who wasn't a mass of sexual contradictions.
And you?trouble
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