Posted by Daisym on March 19, 2008, at 23:14:09
In reply to Re: Love with therapist » Attachment Girl, posted by widget on March 19, 2008, at 18:31:41
Widget,
Even if it wouldn't ruin the therapy, how can be it based on respect when you are both committed to other people right now? (sorry if I have this wrong.) Sometimes I think we have to try and remind ourselves that there are lots of layers in play here - are these men (or women) available to pursue as partners or do they already have partners? And aren't we asking them to risk all - their careers, licensure and families, to be with us? Would we do that if we really love them?
You are right - the feelings don't just go away because we "know" these other things. But I guess I reflect on them to help me lessen the feelings of rejection as a woman.
And truthfully, I don't want to give up my therapist or my therapy for anything. Nothing would be worth it, except forever love - which we know is impossible.
But it is painful, no doubt about it.
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