Posted by peddidle on February 2, 2007, at 23:37:48
In reply to Re: Why can't I talk? (long...what else is new?) » peddidle, posted by Poet on February 2, 2007, at 18:42:35
> Hi Peddidle,
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> Last week in therapy my T brought up that it took over a year for me to trust her. She still says sometimes it's like she's fishing for information. I do find it easier to write something and email it to her or hand it to her.**That seems to be the consensus, that it's easier to write thoughts down than actualy say them out loud. I guess it's not as uncommon as I thought.
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> My T doesn't call it self-censoring, she calls it withholding. She can tell I want to say something, but then I don't. I know I frustrate her, but she knows not to push me or I'll just sit and stare at my shoes.**My T doesn't really push me either, unless she can tell that I'm struggling to say something very important (as was the case yesterday). She doesn't let me get away with not making eye contact though. I have no problem looking at her when she's talking, but I my eyes wander whenever I start talking. If my eyes are wandering around too much, she waits until they come back to her, and then she sort of smiles. I don't know why, but I really hate that.
> Therapy is sometimes far too hard, or are we just hard on ourselves? Hang in there.
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> Poet**I think it's a little of both. I think that's the way it's supposed to be... well, I guess we shouldn't be hard on ourselves. :)
Thanks for your input, Poet. It's good to know I'm not the only one who struggles with this.
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