Posted by Tamar on October 6, 2005, at 17:14:20
In reply to Re: going to quit therapy, posted by alexandra_k on October 6, 2005, at 1:39:37
I’m sorry it’s so hard right now.
And I’m sorry you’re feeling there’s no hope.
I think you’re right. The excuses *are* inconsistent. And I think sometimes the theory is full of circular arguments. You’re the philosopher, so maybe you can spot it more easily than I can.
But you know you need therapy, no matter how circular or inconsistent their arguments against it. Your instincts are right. There are people who can’t benefit from therapy. But you know you’re not one of them.
I know your therapist has hurt you. It’s something that happens in every therapeutic relationship because therapists are flawed and sometimes they’re just not there. And it hurts so much. I think it’s because we attribute cosmic significance to it. It takes on a symbolic resonance or something like that.
And perhaps the same thing is true of the struggle for recognition by the people who make the decisions. They take on a symbolic significance. Their rejection reflects earlier rejections and contributes to the pain. I’m sure I’m not saying anything you haven’t already thought of.
If you can find some hope somewhere, or delay the hopelessness, maybe… maybe things will begin to seem easier.
I would suggest that Plan A is to give your therapist a piece of your mind about not being there. If she’s a good therapist she can take it.
I hope things improve soon.
Tamar
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