Posted by Deneb on October 6, 2005, at 16:10:37
In reply to Re: going to quit therapy, posted by alexandra_k on October 6, 2005, at 1:40:51
Hi Alexandra
You've always helped me so very much, I think maybe you could give yourself some of the advice you give me? :-)
I have limited worldly knowledge, but here goes...
I think I know what you mean when you say that you try to get help, but then people seem like they don't want to help you so then you feel like you have to prove that you need help. This whole "proving" oneself can get dangerous sometimes, but it is the only way people will pay attention to us.
I have the same problem. It's horrible to think that others do not care. Sometimes it feels like I have to do something really horrible just to prove that I'm suffering.
I think maybe we should love and accept ourselves more...to realize that we will not disappear if people do not love or care about us. I think also that we should learn that when we have really bad feelings that it doesn't destroy us, that we *can* handle the emotions.
I think that life is not fair, but that is how things are. It isn't fair and people have to deal with it. Instead of concentrating on the things we wish we had or could do, perhaps we should focus on what we *do* have and what we *can* do. Maybe that is the only way for people like us to stay sane....to realize that some things will not get significantly better, but that we *can* live despite this and that we can still find joy in living.
I dunno, I don't have much wisdom, I'm just trying to figure things out myself.
Deneb
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