Posted by DaisyM on January 6, 2004, at 15:21:06
In reply to Re: (Long) He's not suppose to ask leading questions » fallsfall, posted by Karen_kay on January 5, 2004, at 23:46:59
>>>Like, me stomping my feet, and screaming so loud that everyone in the building can hear it, and ripping off my clothes..
So what if you did? I mean, really. And it is pretty unlikely that you will COMPLETELY lose control -- I bet you at least leave you clothes on!
I understand your fear. For me, losing control, even if it is control of the time in the session, sends me over the edge. But, maybe you could ask him what he would do if you lost control? I told my Therapist that I was afraid to cry because there was so much to cry about I was afraid I'd never stop. He said "I know. But I'm afraid you'll never feel safe enough to start. And that is worse." I even had a dream that he asked me to leave because I started to cry. I told him about the dream and he said it meant that I still didn't feel safe, and that made him sad.
I agree with Falls...this is transference, BIG TIME. I like the idea of the card, make it and take it with you! Tell yourself that you are not a little kid anymore and YOU have control over this second. And then this minute. And then the next 5 minutes. Slowly you will build up to it.
Let me know how today went. I'm thinking about you.
-D
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