Posted by morgan miller on October 24, 2010, at 23:32:08
In reply to Re: On a more practical note... » morgan miller, posted by Dinah on October 24, 2010, at 22:15:26
> > If we were to all do this, there would still be things that Dr. Bob would have a problem with. I think this is why some people have left this board out of frustration over not being able to full express themselves, whether it was done politely or not.
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> Again, I would think it would depend on what you wish to express fully. If one feels compelled to express oneself fully on the topic of the shortcomings of others, then yes, I suppose it may be impossible to do. But I would also say it may be impossible to say some things politely.
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> No matter how cordially and evenly you say "You are an *ss" or "Nobody can stand you", I don't think it could be considered polite.
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> And while it may not be "polite" to say "I am so angry at reading that" (in an angry tone) it would be perfectly civil. On the other hand, it wouldn't be all that useful in draining energy from a situation...So you will agree, that what you, moderators, and Dr. Bob believe to be counterproductive here, is thought to be very productive and is encouraged in psychodynamic group therapy and in every day life. I do think it helps sometimes here to let someone know that it something they said angered you or was offensive in some way. I actually think it can put energy in a situation and may spark further productive discussion. I do understand what you are saying though. I guess I just wish this place was a little more like the real world or group therapy. I mean, there are moderators here to protect people just as there are therapists in group. I also think there are ways to get through to a person that is being uncivil without blocking them for a week. I do realize that this forum is much different than the group therapy setting. So maybe I shouldn't expect what applies in group to apply here. I've just never been on a forum where words were so strictly monitored and censored. Again, I do understand that the uniqueness of this forum may have something to do with such strict regulation.
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