Posted by Dinah on October 24, 2010, at 22:24:04
In reply to Re: I am sad and appalled, posted by morgan miller on October 24, 2010, at 22:11:10
> So what do you think about someone telling another that they have made them angry and explaining why in a polite manner?
Great minds think alike. :)
I pointed out in a previous post that it is perfectly civil under Dr. Bob's guidelines to say that you are very angry. I've done it myself on many occasions. I try to own the anger as mine, because really no one else can *make* me angry. I think the problem comes in the explaining why. It's possible to do that without being uncivil. It helps to step back and look at exactly what you're explaining, because sometimes incivility can seem, in our own minds, to be nothing but a simple recitation of the facts and nothing anyone should take offense over. While in the mind of the other, it might be more judgment than fact.
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