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Posted by rjlockhart on February 11, 2006, at 20:40:23
I have been thinking about how I come across, or just present myself, is it a talent, a charisertic, or a defense mechanism to cover something.
I dont know if anyone knows what defense mechanisms are, i think here a short description, a way of acting in a way to handle a sitaition that is not know to one's self, or how to cope.
I make jokes, laugh, but sometimes i get to the point on what is really me? what is really me? and what is not.
Do i come across "generic" not with a real person persona. If someone knows what i mean, not really having charasteristic`s just dull, universal. I know this seems anaylitical, but i want to know what people think really.
One of my defense mechanisms, (and someone usally doesnt tell this) is self-projecting myself somewhere as someone else and getting stimulation from it. Is that a talent also?
I should of put at the top of this post: this post will be confusing. ROFL!
Well i dont really know. Im just typing my mind.
Talents are what we have gifted, at alot things. But sometimes its hard to tell from a defense mechanism which is also used from the imagination.
Well thats it
Hope someone responds.
Matt
Posted by crazy teresa on February 11, 2006, at 21:10:11
In reply to Talents or Defense Mechanisms? how do you know, posted by rjlockhart on February 11, 2006, at 20:40:23
I don't think we show our real selves to others until we get to know them and feel safe with them. The way you present yourself is just a matter of being social, or sometimes a reflection of our moods. In Christianity, talents are the gifts given to you to use to bring more glory to God.
Posted by TexasChic on February 11, 2006, at 21:20:35
In reply to Talents or Defense Mechanisms? how do you know, posted by rjlockhart on February 11, 2006, at 20:40:23
What's wrong with defense mechanisms? I think its just human nature. You have to find some way to deal with the world. I 'would' say there are good and bad ones though. If its hurting you or prohibiting you from proceeding with life as you would like to, then you might try to cultivate a better defense mechanism. Of course I know that's easier said than done.
I have the tendency to use self deprecating humor. I'll talk about what a clutz I am, or how I'm such a total dingbat. Its a way of dealing with my fear of doing something stupid or embarrassing. It usually brings alot of laughter, and people think I'm 'so' at ease with myself. But I guess that's a cover.
So yeah, I probably would be better off not using that defense mechanism, but its the best I can do for now. And I'm not going to berate myself for doing my best. And you shouldn't either.
-T
Posted by rjlockhart on February 11, 2006, at 21:22:08
In reply to Re: Talents or Defense Mechanisms? how do you know » rjlockhart, posted by crazy teresa on February 11, 2006, at 21:10:11
You know thats so strange,
i just got back from saterday night church talking about god-given talents, to bring glory to his kindom.
Theresa you have a gift of profecy ROFL! no that was really exactly what they said in the sermon.
I wander if you can develop talents? i know anyone can develop defense mechanisms. But a new part of yourself....
Anyways, gotta run.
THanks for posting, i though this post was "out there"
Matt
Posted by rjlockhart on February 11, 2006, at 21:29:07
In reply to Re: Talents or Defense Mechanisms? how do you know, posted by TexasChic on February 11, 2006, at 21:20:35
I think talent is something that you are really gifted with.
Defense mechanisms are sort of a way of coping with a way something is, with it being humor, showing your opinion, so on...
There nothing wrong with defense mechanisms, i think everyone has one or more to a degree.
Being defensive (argueing) is a cause i think from something, and it can be a defense M, but like being a REAL people person i think is talent.
Thats my put for now
THanks texasc...... im from tarrant county near dallas, just to let you know.
Matt
Posted by TexasChic on February 11, 2006, at 21:34:10
In reply to Re: Talents or Defense Mechanisms? how do you know, posted by rjlockhart on February 11, 2006, at 21:29:07
Cool! That's where I am too!
-T
P.S. Did we discuss this before? My memory's kind of fuzzy. I discussed it with 'someone'.
Posted by rjlockhart on February 11, 2006, at 21:40:08
In reply to Re: Talents or Defense Mechanisms? how do you know, posted by rjlockhart on February 11, 2006, at 21:29:07
im near Southlake TX, thats near the Grapevine Mills Mall.
Ha... thats something.
Hope well see other and not even know it.
ROFL
Matt
Posted by deirdrehbrt on February 11, 2006, at 21:44:09
In reply to Re: Talents or Defense Mechanisms? how do you know, posted by rjlockhart on February 11, 2006, at 21:29:07
It was said before, but defense mechanisms are something developed by EVERYONE.
As a small child, we all develop defense mechanisms. It's our way of handling our parent's not being there when we want them there, or dealing with pain, or loss, or anything else negative.
Sometimes these mechanisms can become pathological. That's what happens with DID. or Borderline. Then we need to unlearn the negative patterns and learn better ones.
Gifts are given to us by deity. (Or by nature for those that have no deity.) Sometimes our gifts and our defense mechanisms are intertwined. A gift of a great imagination can fuel the defense mechanism of DID. Completely new "persons" are created to deal with unbearable situations.
Sometimes we are taught to suppress or to not acknowledge our gifts in the name of humility. As someone once said, RuneWolf, "That's a slap in the face of deity who gave us those gifts". Everyone should be encouraged to express the gifts they were given. Our positive defense mechanisms should be nurtured. Our negative defense mechanisms should be redirected to more positive ones. DBT is a great tool for that.
--Dee... who is practicing the defense mechanism of hiding in her room, reading and posting.
Blessings.
Posted by TexasChic on February 11, 2006, at 21:55:10
In reply to Re: Talents or Defense Mechanisms? how do you know, posted by rjlockhart on February 11, 2006, at 21:40:08
I live right by Northeast Mall! I've lived here a year and still haven't actually gone in there!
BTW, I think I'm the only person in a 100 mile radius who has never been to Grapvine Mills Mall. I'm just not a big mall person.
-T
Posted by James K on February 11, 2006, at 22:30:59
In reply to Talents or Defense Mechanisms? how do you know, posted by rjlockhart on February 11, 2006, at 20:40:23
Hey rj,
I read all the other responses, then came back to your original post to make sure i remembered what you were talking about.I think you have a personality. I recognize it when I read your posts.
I think a characteristic is the part of me in a social situation that makes me stand back at first and get the feeling for what's happening. A talent is when I can make people feel welcome, and make witty conversation. A defense mechanism is when I feel insulted or attacked and jump right to hostility instead of keeping my head or figuring out what's really going on.
As you know, we have to develop our talents, which is a good reminder to me because I have many. And so do you.
James K
Posted by Phillipa on February 11, 2006, at 22:54:36
In reply to Re: Talents or Defense Mechanisms? how do you know » rjlockhart, posted by TexasChic on February 11, 2006, at 21:55:10
Why don't you and Matt meet like wildcard and I did. What do you say Matt?. Love Phillipa
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