Posted by TexasChic on February 11, 2006, at 21:20:35
In reply to Talents or Defense Mechanisms? how do you know, posted by rjlockhart on February 11, 2006, at 20:40:23
What's wrong with defense mechanisms? I think its just human nature. You have to find some way to deal with the world. I 'would' say there are good and bad ones though. If its hurting you or prohibiting you from proceeding with life as you would like to, then you might try to cultivate a better defense mechanism. Of course I know that's easier said than done.
I have the tendency to use self deprecating humor. I'll talk about what a clutz I am, or how I'm such a total dingbat. Its a way of dealing with my fear of doing something stupid or embarrassing. It usually brings alot of laughter, and people think I'm 'so' at ease with myself. But I guess that's a cover.
So yeah, I probably would be better off not using that defense mechanism, but its the best I can do for now. And I'm not going to berate myself for doing my best. And you shouldn't either.
-T
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