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I feel so much better

Posted by margie24 on June 9, 2005, at 1:14:29

JenStar,
I'm up again. I read your post. Thanks. I agree about weddings. And, you're right, most men really could probably do without them. So in that aspect, it probably is the bride's day. And there's no way I'll take that away from her.
I've decided I will enjoy the wedding. I even thought of something to say if they allow me to toast at the rehearsal dinner. I'll tell her she's completed my brother and then say we're glad to have another sister. It will be very therapeutic...that's how I find therapy I guess. I think I can do it. I might pass out. The thought frightens me becasue I want to mean it. You know what, though, I know my brother would feel relief.
Thanks again Jenn,
Margie

Re: I feel so much better

Posted by PM80 on June 9, 2005, at 7:41:39

In reply to I feel so much better, posted by margie24 on June 9, 2005, at 1:14:29

I'm glad to hear that! Just make sure on the toast that you are sincere. Saying something that you obviously don't mean will make things worse, even if/ especially if they are too nice. Falsely sweet words are a sort of backstabbing. Only say that she's completed your brother if you actually think it. But you could say that your brother seems truly happy, and that she is clearly irresistable to him. And so you are very happy that he was so fortunate to find someone that he couls love. Just say something sincere if you actually want help and not exacerbate the situation. That said, I'm glad that you are not going to let her bother you and that you've decided to make peace with some things that you cannot change. Doing that has really helped me in my own life.

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