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Posted by Katt on April 18, 2002, at 13:42:34
I have a tendency to become extremely needy and lonely and just plain crazy. The other day, I was on the phone with a newer shrink (new to me) and I asked him what I should do that evening because I was feeling desperate and needed to be around people. His response: Go to a bar.
Huh?!?!?!? Was he for real? Well, he was. Now was that right??
Posted by beardedlady on April 18, 2002, at 13:50:10
In reply to Appropriate advice from a Psychiatrist?, posted by Katt on April 18, 2002, at 13:42:34
Unless you have a drinking problem (that he knows about), it's a great place to be with people! And it isn't usually weird to go into one alone, so--why not?
beardy : )>
Posted by LiLi80 on April 18, 2002, at 13:56:25
In reply to Appropriate advice from a Psychiatrist?, posted by Katt on April 18, 2002, at 13:42:34
obviously you know this guy is an idiot. get a new psychiatrist, trust me ones that arent supportive will just make you feel worse. Next time you feel like that and you really want to be with people, go to a mall, get an ice cream and sit on a bench, i know you just need the comfort of bodies around. the mall things really does help, it gets you around people, and you dont have to get stuck talking to a drunken guy trying to hit on you and if its after mall hours go to a late movie, the point is to make yourself get out and do something, just being around people is what you need to keep you ok, unfortunately for me, that stuff doesnt work anymore, when alone is better is when you know your getting bad. hope you can use my ideas
lili
Posted by mist on April 18, 2002, at 17:23:18
In reply to Appropriate advice from a Psychiatrist?, posted by Katt on April 18, 2002, at 13:42:34
I don't think the advice is bad. I think it depends on the bar you go to. There are nice bars. And you don't have to order alcohol.
I also think Lili's advice is good about other things to do. The advantage of a bar though is it's more conducive to conversation than some other places.
> I have a tendency to become extremely needy and lonely and just plain crazy. The other day, I was on the phone with a newer shrink (new to me) and I asked him what I should do that evening because I was feeling desperate and needed to be around people. His response: Go to a bar.
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> Huh?!?!?!? Was he for real? Well, he was. Now was that right??
Posted by judy1 on April 18, 2002, at 17:45:46
In reply to Appropriate advice from a Psychiatrist?, posted by Katt on April 18, 2002, at 13:42:34
He sounds a little 'sarcastic' to me. I have a shrink like that and if I'm being hypersensitive he really gets to me with those off-hand comments. Maybe you can bring it up with him next time you see him- tell him how it made you feel and I guarantee he'll be more careful in the future. If not, dump him. Take care, Judy
Posted by paxvox2000 on April 18, 2002, at 18:02:53
In reply to Appropriate advice from a Psychiatrist?, posted by Katt on April 18, 2002, at 13:42:34
That's a pretty lame response from ANY Doc, even if he was just kidding. He could have made dozens of productive or helpful suggestions, like "go to the mall and watch the people walk by, and try to figure out what they are all about". He could have told you to go to a museum or a play or even something simple like go to a nice book store and cruise the aisles. Sounds like a real bone head to me! By the way, THIS is always a place you can come, and find some really nice and helpful as well as genuinely concerned people. You can even register for the Psychobabble open, and chat live (although it's not the easiest thing to get into).
So.....drop on by and say howdy, ask some questions, share some thoughts, I think you will find a place of comfort here if you invest some of yourself.PAX
Posted by Katt on April 18, 2002, at 23:18:11
In reply to Re: Appropriate advice from a Psychiatrist? » Katt, posted by paxvox2000 on April 18, 2002, at 18:02:53
I dumped him today. I've had a rough go the past three months. When I first started seeing him, I lost my job. I was on the phone with him, telling him about it and I was in tears. I said that I could hear my dad laughing about it (my father has always told me that I would never amount to anything and that he would make sure of that). So when I said the figurative sentence, the dr said "Cover your ears." Needless to say, that conversation ended there. I don't have a psychiatrist again. Or anyone else for that matter.
Posted by judy1 on April 19, 2002, at 12:09:15
In reply to Re: Appropriate advice from a Psychiatrist?, posted by Katt on April 18, 2002, at 23:18:11
Well shit, I'm sorry. I went through over a dozen pdocs after my first- very ugly boundary situation there- so get on the phone and start interviewing NOW. Talk to one on the phone first- 5 or 10 minutes- just to get a feel so you don't waste a trip. I know it feels difficult now, but if you just try finding someone now- just the action should make you feel better.
Take care, Judy
Posted by Katt on April 19, 2002, at 13:50:43
In reply to Re: Appropriate advice from a Psychiatrist? » Katt, posted by judy1 on April 19, 2002, at 12:09:15
Know, what Judy? You're right. Just because he can recite my diagnoses and tell me that I am not doing well and just becuase I was referred to him while in the hospital, does not mean he was any good. Like I said, I left him a voice mail yeasterday telling him that we were through. I now have two other appointments. Ugh, this is soooo frustrating!! Mostly because although you mention talking to the person over the phone, because I had really liked him in the beginning.
Posted by judy1 on April 20, 2002, at 18:47:30
In reply to Re: Appropriate advice from a Psychiatrist?judy1, posted by Katt on April 19, 2002, at 13:50:43
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