Posted by Tamar on June 6, 2005, at 19:11:59
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men, posted by Susan47 on June 6, 2005, at 18:36:55
> It sounds interesting. Very. I'm having a hard time with the concept. I've never been friends with any men. Or boys either, for that matter. But, it would be nice.
I wondered about that when you first posted about friendly sex. But you seem to be friends with some men here at babble. Is it so different in real life? And of course you can still flirt with friends… it’s just that they’re basically friends rather than basically potential partners.
> Lovely, lovely maleness, the more male, the more lovely. No, no no no that's not even true. Hmm. Because hairy bullish types are out. O-u-t.
What’s wrong with hairy? I love hairy. I can be attracted to men with very little body hair, but generally I love hair everywhere. I remember (years ago) a new partner took off his shirt and I saw his chest for the first time, and I hadn’t expected it but he was just extremely hairy. What a lovely surprise that was! …. OK, I’m back now…
> Unless they have oustanding character. I guess it's like, some men will only be with a blonde, only a blonde really does it for them. As a woman I don't feel badly for having my preferences. Not at all. Hmm. Never knew I had 'em, before now. But I do. I absolutely do.
Nothing wrong with preferences. The thing to avoid (IMHO) is prejudices. By all means be attracted to dark hair or dark eyes or an athletic physique or a smooth chest or a well-cut suit. But of course we can’t assume that men who fit a certain description are going to be good men. The great thing about men is that they’re so wonderfully various. If we never look at men who diverge from our ‘ideal’ we might well miss out on some really fantastic guys. I reckon we would do well to admire all kinds of men…
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