Posted by wendy b. on June 17, 2003, at 7:24:28
In reply to Re: How would YOU feel??Thanks all, posted by tina on June 16, 2003, at 12:30:18
> Wendy, I haven't spoken to my brother about it. He took my husband's side a few years back when my husband had an affair too, but I digress. screaming at either one of them just doesn't get anywhere.
Yeah, I know it won't. But I imagine you doing it, and it gives me pleasure. Maybe just fantasizing about it (or looking at the mirror and yelling) would help - I dunno...
>They don't hear me. None of my family hears me. My dad is always on my side but he doesn't hear me either. He just pats me on the head, gives me a hug and says "move on sweetie"
Yeah, condescending. Sounds like expressing and dealing with emotion is not the family's forte.
> There isn't anyone I can just sit and have a conversation with about how much this is hurting me.
Well, I think we could chat (IM) sometime... You've mentioned it on the other board, maybe you can do it now, especially when you're not feeling supported. Or, just keep posting here...
>I know that sounds selfish but I need someone to be there for me too, don't I?Jeeze Louise, that isn't SELFISH, that's HUMAN! OF COURSE you need someone to be there for you. This is just a basic human need. And if you don't have it and haven't had it, your pain must be immense. I have felt that way sometimes - that I was all alone. Luckily, it was a passing thing, but I have cried many tears over that issue...
>My husband seems to have his family AND mine so where is MY support and understanding???
> I just feel alone.
> TI understand. I hope we can help you get through this, and that you feel you can express yourself here... People ARE listening. You need to know that.
I wish you peace today and always,
W.
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