Posted by kalyb on June 13, 2003, at 9:27:05
In reply to Fellow Alien, posted by kara lynne on June 12, 2003, at 18:28:49
Hey Kara... so nice to hear from you, thanks for responding :)
> It's so hard to survive our own intense self-criticism during all of this; to have to endure the harsh and ignorant judgement from others is just not fair.
Yes!! This is so right!! I wish I could get this across to her..... *sigh*
>Congratulations on making it out of a very stressful encounter relatively intact! What a difficult situation to live in--especially with the newborn and all the conflict that must bring up for you.
Thanks, and yes it does...
> You're right. It is 100% none of her business why the relationship ended between you and your boyfriend. I'm sorry you felt like you had to make excuses to someone so uncompassionate. But if you feel it helped you out of a sticky situation and it will keep her quiet, then that's all that matters. But you don't owe her any excuses. It sounds like she's already got her ideas, and she's just going to find ways to keep you in the place she's created for you.
Now that is an interesting viewpoint. "the place she's created for you"... I don't see how her behaviour is bringing me out of anything. Surely praise would be more effective than criticism?
Although, it probably hasn't occurred to her that - although she knows I suffer from low self esteem - someone with no or little self esteem takes criticism to the core... whereas someone with normal esteem has an inner intact "self" which is able to rationalise it? I wonder if this is what she's missing.... what she doesn't understand?
> Well I'm sorry I'm all fired up! I just want you to know I'm rooting for you, and searching for other signs of life on our planet...
> (((((((((kalyb))))))))))aww thanks Kara.... hugs to you too!!!! By the way, I have set up a new email-addy if you ever wished to mail me: kalybat oneteldotcom
Kalyb xx
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