Posted by 2sense on April 12, 2002, at 14:07:17
In reply to How do i stop being angry?, posted by LiLi80 on April 11, 2002, at 14:29:08
Lili80 --
Just hopped over to this board -- I'm coming in late but a lot of what you are writing sounds like things I have experienced not necessarily at a school (is this high school or college) not that it matters. You have rights ... and I'd like to know more, if you are willing, because where I live I asked for an assignment sheet for my 3rd grader with AD/HD when we moved here in 10/85 -- called the district office. (BTW this is a for instance it may not apply at all or seem connected to your situation but I don't know much. Not letting someone graduate is not something (especially in this day and age) a school -- any school -- can do unless you've done something pretty horrible and specific and they can prove it beyond a shaddow of a doubt -- i.e., not via rumor, etc.) a school can just say you can't. Back to the district I dealt with. They told me that their state didn't recognize AD/HD as a (learning) disability so I couldn't ask for any accomodations (I just didn't want my charmer walzing in and saying he had no homework when he did). Well I politely (as I could given what I said :-)) asked the person if the state had ceded from the union or stopped taking federal funds? I said unless one of those two things happened they were federally obligated to accomodate my son -- for a whole lot more than an assignment sheet but that was all I wanted. Well they wanted to do it the hard way, but I worked for DOE and recognized the necessity of documenting, documenting, documenting -- of being polite, having my i's dotted and t's crossed. I do this for a lot of people. I find that some people in authority will simply say x,y, or z and the majority of the people they say it to accept it and walk away. I suppose some would call me a trouble maker, others say I am an advocate, I like to think if it weren't for others like myself we'd be drinking tea in England for there would have been no revolutionary war, etc. Even if a teacher failed you and you feel it was unjustified, that can be rationally challenged -- like I said I don't know the specifics and it is ENTIRELY up to you as to whether you wish to share them ... but I'm rooting for you -- hang in there ... I'm no pollyanna ... life been sort of rough on me but like the 12 steppers say a momonet at a time sometimes.
Really and Truly just my 2sense (Sue)
It took me a very long time to stop being angry, especially since it was outrageous, unfair, against the law and they got away with it. I have a strong faith and believe that in time people are dealt with -- some call it karma. I know in my case 40 people eventually were fired, quit, and/or took early retirement. It should have eased my pain but the lies and lies and conspiracy and duplicity -- and being told it wasn't really happening. Probably the best thing that helped me move forward was when it came out in the open and it wasn't "all in my head" -- nonetheless -- I lost a lot. Now 6+ years have passed and I look back and try to see what I can learn from the "experience" -- a lot of days .. I think NOTHING that's what it has taught me ... sorry that's really goofy.
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