Posted by rskontos on August 24, 2008, at 12:42:19
In reply to Re: Identity disturbance, posted by Quintal on August 23, 2008, at 20:06:05
Quintal,
This is hard one for me too. I have been the one to tell my t, who is also my p-doc that I feel I have no identity, that I don't know the real me. He doesn't get so worked up over it. Instead he just focuses on me trying to get connected to relationships with people and to let the rest sort itself out. I tend to agree with Lurspie. I think identity changes. I feel I was robbed of my identity in my childhood justing trying to survive. Isn't identity formed when you feel safe. So now as an adult I think it is much harder to form one because of an awareness we need one. As a child growing up safe and secure it happens because it is what developmentally is suppose to and it changes as experiences changes the person. I think for us here at Babble our experiences molded us differently and affected that identity and now we want to have a different one we can be happy with and it is much harder due to awareness that identity is defining. As a child you don't much care do you.
I like obsidian's idea of adjectives and Ll's idea of then saying I do this when or I feel this when.
And for me, I just say I am still a work in progress. I wonder about why your T thinks an identity is so important for her to see. Oh well, therapy sure is hard sometimes. Isn't it.
Take care friend,
rsk
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