Posted by Daisym on April 7, 2008, at 0:20:27
In reply to the parts of their lives which don't include you.., posted by twinleaf on April 6, 2008, at 6:21:33
I'm not sure how much more there is to explore. He is pretty accepting of all these feelings - I hate having them but they are here none-the-less - and I'm sure they are the result of what I don't have, and didn't have. We talked about jealousy and he said he didn't know of many relationships that didn't have this component in it occasionally. I guess as long as it doesn't over-take you, it isn't pathological.
When we talk about these things, my therapist reminds me that he is very present for me when we are together and that is really what counts. Like your therapist, he holds me in his mind and I can feel his strength surrounding me. I wish I could hold him in mine better.
Thanks for sharing the humor. I love the back and forth, it adds a level of intimacy that feels really good.
And I'd like to add, you seem to really be healing from the big rupture last year. I hear understanding in your "voice" -- I know it still hurts and trusting this new therapist was a lot of work. But you are really doing well and I'm so impressed.
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