Posted by twinleaf on December 17, 2007, at 23:52:35
In reply to Re: What kind of T relationship helps the most? muffl » twinleaf, posted by muffled on December 17, 2007, at 22:57:43
Well, yes. it's kind of different if you look at it from the point of view that you have inner kids who are sort of separate. I guess they have been feeling the same for a long time, but haven't had enough of a chance to say how they feel. It's different from when the feelings are more covered up.
Still, maybe the times when you felt needy and dependent were important, because they helped you deepen your trust in your therapist. And you may have grown out of that stage, which is great..
I definitely know that awful feeling of kind of "losing" one's therapist in one's mind. It used to happen to me a lot, but much less now. In the beginning, I couldn't remember what he looked like, or what his voice sounded like between sessions- I really didn't know who I was going to! I know this is from not having a mother when I was an infant. For me, just getting his face and voice firmly in my brain was a wonderful step.
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