Posted by muffled on December 17, 2007, at 22:57:43
In reply to What kind of T relationship helps the most? muffl, posted by twinleaf on December 17, 2007, at 22:31:03
> Muffled, that's such a good answer! It's wonderful hearing about your T. She sounds so great- as you say, not perfect, but so honest and caring. And it's wonderful to hear that you feel your relationship with her is constantly changing and growing. How long have you been with her? (I've forgotten)
*ummm dunno how long exactly!!! Mebbe 2-3 yrs off and on I guess.
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> I think what I was getting at is: is there such a thing as too much dependency? Is there a sort of balance between dependence and independence which is best for most of us, or is it completely different for each person? Are there people who have had the xperience of being sort of "taken apart and put back together "in therapy- becoming more regressed and childlike, and then getting reintegrated in a healthier way? I don't know if anyone has posted about that, exactly. I think my first analyst was trying to do that, but for me, it wasn't a good idea.
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*Dependancy.....I'm not big on being dependant....however there has certainly been times where I have really...hmmm, well, I not sure, but I would 'lose' my T in my head and that would really bother me, and I would be really wishing(ughhh...needing?) for that connection again....
I guess unless its necessary for healing....I cannot understand too much dependance cuz it frikken HURTS!!!! It causes great confusion and much emotions that are uncomfortable....I HATED feeling 'needy'.
Ultimately T's are trying to work themselves OUT of a job...and launch us forth, able to cope with what life can and will chuck at us....
So, its sure is an interesting thot.
My T is more CBT and personcentered etc. So she very much tries to work WITH me. We are leanrning TOGETHER. I kinda in the middle of some crapola, so I will have to refrain comment for now as to how this seconda part is working...
I dunno bout regressed....
I have younger aspects of myself...
I am of the thot that I need to deal with them....
But just to make them content, to make them see what is truth. They beleive so many lies. They just kids and dunno.
So thats all I wish to do.
Achieve a measure of inner peace, so I am no longer 'haunted', and blow up upon occassion. So I can be less confused, so I can think, so I can have some inner peace, so maybe I can do some good in this world.
Steada just being deadwood.
Sigh.
Dunno if this what you were looking for?
Interesting ideas.
M
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