Posted by Honore on June 12, 2007, at 8:56:12
In reply to Re: Okay, I tried to stay away ** *triggers*** » confuzyq, posted by Happyflower on June 12, 2007, at 7:01:57
Maybe I'm wrong HF, but isn't the end of your relationship with your T a big part of your sadness and sense of loss?
Everyone whose written about termination always says that there's a lot of grieving and coming to terms with it that you have to do. I'm not sure you've done that, and maybe you still need to.
I'm sorry that babble, among others, doesnt' feel safe. No place is completely safe, but this place seems as safe as any-- more safe than most, because people do care-- even if not perfectly-- and not all the time.
It's hard to know what to say sometimes when someone's hurting-- you can say the wrong thing at other times too. I and,I know. others wish we could help, and wish that you weren't easily hurt-- deeply-- by things that maybe no one means in that way--
I miss your presence when you're not here-- and I don't know why you left this time, but I hope you can feel better-- even if leaving Therapy is something that takes a certain toll-- and weighs on you and makes it harder to absorb the caring that babblers have.
Even if one person is hurtful, usually someone else wants to help, and empathizes with your reactions-- I think often you shut that person out-- because you don't trust--- or feel safe enough-- to believe that anyone's there for you, as opposed to against you.
I wish you could hear the caring voices at those times, too.
Honore
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