Posted by littleone on May 7, 2005, at 18:12:16
In reply to Re: Pinkeye? (very long) » pinkeye, posted by Dinah on May 6, 2005, at 18:45:55
Firstly, I know that children can be traumatised by watching another sibling or parent being abused (especially physically). It may be worthwhile thinking about what sort of affect it had on you to see your brother abused by your father.
Another thing is that traumatised kids will dissociate in various ways to ensure that they can separate the abusive parent into good and bad so that they can still maintain a relationship with the good part of the parent. I know you're pretty proficient at dissociating, so it may be worthwhile thinking about how that has come into play with your relationship with your dad.
Dinah, I'm am currently having a very difficult time trying to accept that my parents were (are?) abusive/neglectful. I'm kind of at the stage where I really need to sit down and consider what core beliefs are being threatened or triggered by trying to accept this.
I think you do this by saying "what would that mean to me. And then, what would that answer mean to me. And then, what would that second answer mean to me" and that's supposed to lead you to your core belief. Don't know if it actually works yet. My brain keeps glancing off all this.
But I think that's a little bit further down the acceptance road than what you are at.
Have you thought about how you would feel if your son was treated in the manner you were treated by your dad? Try to think of how it would help or harm him.
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