Posted by Dinah on May 1, 2004, at 9:38:12
In reply to How I hate to ask for help! (Long, may trigger), posted by Aphrodite on May 1, 2004, at 8:33:12
Sounds like me my first several years of therapy. And no, my therapist wasn't insightful enough to get it. He thought I was incapable of feeling emotions, had me pegged in the schizotypal/schizoid group.
I'll try to remember what changed, because you shouldn't have to go through years of it like I did. One thing that changed is that I started trusting him more. No shortcut to that one. I started bringing in writing. For example, you could bring him in your post. You did a very good job of describing how you felt, and didn't feel at all corporate. He'd make me read the writing, or agree to read it first, then have me read it aloud. It helped *a lot*. So if you find you can express yourself easier in writing or in conversations online, use that. Bring them in.
I also learned to look deep deep inside myself before going in. I would visualize opening door after door going downward to where my feelings were kept and inviting them out. A silly visualization, but surprisingly effective for me. At first the emotions weren't congruous, but I got better at it.
I still struggle sometimes saying things the *right* way. Saying them with the feelings attached. It's very frustrating to me to report on them instead of experiencing them in the moment. My therapist tries to let me know that that is all right.
((((Aphrodite))))
P.S. Don't worry about asking for help. That's what the board is for. Besides, you've already *given* lots of support (not that that's a necessary precondition for getting it).
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