Posted by Roo on September 7, 1999, at 10:38:42
In reply to Re: Depression and Relationships, posted by Bob (not Dr.) on September 7, 1999, at 10:19:35
Yeah....I think you're right about the friends who
refuse to withdraw (as my boyfriend does as well)...
takes a strong person b/c I can be rather intimidating
and bruske--acting like I don't want anything from
anyone, when in fact I'm dying inside for it...but
also when I get it (comfort) I don't know how to
handle it...I think wanting to take responsibility
for hiding the "bad" parts of ourselves from loved
ones is more protecting ourselves than them. I think
my depression bothers me more than it does my boyfriend.
I don't even think, sometimes, like when I have
perspective, that my depression is so much a problem
than is the way I judge it as "bad" and see it as
some sort of handicap. THat makes it much worse.
It can be torture sometimes, that feeling of being
half a person, of not feeling fit for relationships.
I feel fine when I'm single, but I get really stressed
when in relationships. But I think it's because I
have some idea that I have to be perfect. I also
don't take as good of care of myself b/c I'm focused
on my partner...
Not sure where I'm going with all this, there dosen't
seem to be any neat way to wrap it all up...just
sorting out my different thoughts. It was interesting
hearing what you had to say too, Bob. Are you off
medication now? If so, have you re-considered going
back on? I think it's interesting both you and your
girlfriend are into psychology/psychiatry.
poster:Roo
thread:11168
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/19990829/msgs/11178.html