Posted by Bob (not Dr.) on September 7, 1999, at 10:19:35
In reply to Depression and Relationships, posted by Roo on September 7, 1999, at 7:29:17
> Anyone relate?
You said it, sister! After this weekend, I could
really relate. I feel so guilty because I started
dating my girlfriend when I was caught in a
slight manic response to zoloft the first time I
was on it. A few months later I decided (at my
doc's suggestion) to go off it, and a month after
that I crashed hard. It's been various flavors
of hell since then. It's also been 2.5 years
that we've been together. I feel she fell for a
part of me that may never surface again, and at
times like this past weekend I tell her flat out
to find someone else, that there's no way I can
meet her needs because I'm having too much
trouble meeting my own. I knew that at one time
in my life with her, I would have married her
as soon as we could find a Justice of the Peace or
whatever. Now, I look inside for where those feelings
are hiding and I can find only the slightest
traces of them. Sometimes...no, most of the time,
what makes it even harder is that she's a
clinician in training, hard-core psychodynamic;
and I'm a learning researcher more based in
cognitive, social, and sociocultural psych.Sometimes I think the only thing I have to offer
her is a frank, honest response. It sounds like
such an "objective" thing--a frank, honest response--
but I know from experience that the definitions
of those words change based on your meds and
your frame of mind.I guess the bottom line for me, though, is that
no matter how down I get on myself and how much
I feel I have a responsibility to isolate myself
from everyone else so they don't have to experience
the bad side of me, I always have some friends
who flat-out disagree and won't allow me to
withdraw.So, I guess if my judgment is so bad in the
first place, my friends must be right.Cheers,
Bob
poster:Bob (not Dr.)
thread:11168
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/19990829/msgs/11177.html