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Posted by fairywings on September 29, 2005, at 22:21:21
I'm really depressed. My T had to cancel our appt. tonight 2 hours b4 our appt. I know there had to be a good reason, because he's been so good, and he did reschedule it, but I really needed to talk to him.
I guess it's good he cancelled because I had a terrible migraine, and I'm just depressed. I took some meds and went to bed. I've only slept 2 full nights out of the past 7, I've had a migraine the past 4 days, I have terrible tinnitus, I started school - I'm taking an online course, and everything is all screwed up, and I have a GYN problem that no one would understand - I'm seeing my GYN tomorrow - no STDs or anything like that.
Anyway, I was so upset when his office called I just wanted to cry, I wanted to just cancel all my future appts., like that would do my a H*ll of a lot of good! I felt like I was a stomping 4 year old. Then I thought about it, and thought how kind and patient he's been with me, and how stupid and immature I was being.
It's probably better that I'm seeing the GYN first, and that I'm not going with a migraine anyway, but now I know I won't share the stuff I was going to share tonight, and I'll be back to my gloom and doom.
What's wrong with me?! Why am I such a pessimist? Why am I such a freakin' baby? I'm going to bed to suck my freakin' thumb! Whaaa!
fw
Posted by muffled on September 29, 2005, at 23:23:51
In reply to Depressed, T cancelled, posted by fairywings on September 29, 2005, at 22:21:21
Posted by sleepygirl on September 30, 2005, at 0:01:54
In reply to Depressed, T cancelled, posted by fairywings on September 29, 2005, at 22:21:21
I'm afraid I've had very similar reactions - no one seems to listen like a T - it's sometimes really hard to miss it.
I sometimes have the urge to get angry at my therapist for my unreasonable expectations- they are purely emotional and all about ME, and I know it, but it's hard to be in such an unequal relationship in terms of need distribution/power (remind you of any other kind of relationship?-hint- Mom and/or Dad)
I hope though you can acknowledge it with your T and share what you need to share.
I hope you feel better soon.
-sleepygirl
Posted by fairywings on September 30, 2005, at 6:41:08
In reply to Re: Depressed, T cancelled » fairywings, posted by sleepygirl on September 30, 2005, at 0:01:54
> I'm afraid I've had very similar reactions - no one seems to listen like a T
I was upset at first when they cancelled, but only for about 1/2 hour. I'm more mad at myself for reacting like such a baby. I was feeling so immature about the whole thing. I'm not angry at my T. How could I be angry when he's been so good to me? He's so kind and patient, and usually goes overtime in my sessions. I just hope he wasn't sick.
> >(remind you of any other kind of relationship?-hint- Mom and/or Dad)
> I hope though you can acknowledge it with your T and share what you need to share.If he asks I'd tell him that I was upset for a little while but that I couldn't be mad at him. I'd be honest. I'm more mad at myself for having such an immature reaction.
I had a terrible relationship with my mom and dad, so it doesn't remind me of them at all. They were abusive, he's kind, he's the
good parent, the (re)parent ; )> I hope you feel better soon.
> -sleepygirlThanks sleepy!
Posted by cricket on September 30, 2005, at 7:27:57
In reply to Depressed, T cancelled, posted by fairywings on September 29, 2005, at 22:21:21
Hey FW,
Sorry to hear about the appointment cancellation.
Look at the good side though. In such a short time, you've managed to attach to this T and depend on him. That's a good thing, right?
After three years, I still live for my therapist's vacations. I wish I could attach just a little bit to him.
Posted by fairywings on September 30, 2005, at 9:00:43
In reply to Re: Depressed, T cancelled » fairywings, posted by cricket on September 30, 2005, at 7:27:57
Hi cricket,
Hmmmmm never thought about that. Yes, I'm really glad I like him, it is a very good thing in my eyes. I'm sorry you haven't been able to latch on to your T, that must not feel so great.
fw
Posted by muffled on September 30, 2005, at 9:50:09
In reply to Re: Depressed, T cancelled » fairywings, posted by cricket on September 30, 2005, at 7:27:57
> Hey FW,
>
> Sorry to hear about the appointment cancellation.
>
> Look at the good side though. In such a short time, you've managed to attach to this T and depend on him. That's a good thing, right?
>
> After three years, I still live for my therapist's vacations. I wish I could attach just a little bit to him.
>
I dunno cricket. Being attached too much just causes pain. I don't like emotional pain. Go ahead and smack me,just don't hurt me inside. I'm not so attached to my T. either. I look forward to having someone to try and help me figger what my problem is, but sorry, if she dropped dead tomorrow, I'd be sad for her family and all, but I feel kinda nasty, I wouldn't miss HER per se. I'm not like bonded to her. I wouldn't cry or nothing. Gad, I sound like a horrible unfeeling monster. I'm not. I just don't get attached. Sorry to ramble.
FAIRYWINGS, glad your feeling better. Its just that initial dissapointment is hard isn't it? I think your pretty normal in that all right.
Better go before I say or do something stupid. I do that too much.
Posted by kerria on October 1, 2005, at 12:07:35
In reply to Depressed, T cancelled, posted by fairywings on September 29, 2005, at 22:21:21
(((Fairywings)))
It sounds like you have a really good T. i'm sorry about the cancellation- i hope you can see T soon. It's hard to be attached but better than to not be attached. Then it's so hard to do therapy. It's a good thing that you feel that way towards your T. i don't think that you were immature at all.
Take care,
kerria
Posted by Poet on October 1, 2005, at 12:48:22
In reply to Depressed, T cancelled, posted by fairywings on September 29, 2005, at 22:21:21
Hi FW,
Adult you recognizes that even though you needed your T, he had an emergency and these things happen. Inner child you says, not fair, not fair, not fair. Let her stomp away! Throw things.
I think inner children really take the sensible approach to releasing tension/anger/disappointment. Stomping and screaming is better than keeping it all in like a grown up. I hate being grown up. Though I hated being a child, too. Maybe my inner teenager should take over next time I get mad.
What's wrong with you being a pessimist? You mean that stupid glass they always refer to isn't supposed to be completely empty, cracked, with a dead bug in it? Mine is.
Poet
Posted by fairywings on October 1, 2005, at 23:25:09
In reply to Re: Depressed, T cancelled » fairywings, posted by Poet on October 1, 2005, at 12:48:22
> What's wrong with you being a pessimist? You mean that stupid glass they always refer to isn't supposed to be completely empty, cracked, with a dead bug in it? Mine is.
>
LOL Poet you are so funny!It's a good thing my T cancelled last appt., I had a really rough day the next day, and really needed to see him today. He really came through for me, when no one else, except my husband has. He really is awesome. You said in a post to daisy that you expected your T to reject you as punishment, and she wouldn't. That was interesting because today I said something about what I'd told him being so incredibly weird. (not the words I used) and his reaction was SO intense that I was overwhelmed by his acceptance of me. Barely before the words were out of my mouth, he said, "It is NOT ......." and then went on to say some more things that made me feel like he was completely okay with me and what I told him. It was even more incredible to me because 2 other doctors have either looked at me incredulously, told me I have a problem, or been slightly amused by my problem, which is not at all funny to me.
fw
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