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Posted by Krissy P on March 15, 2003, at 0:47:36
This is a real plea-I really need suppport on this one. My dad has a history of being an addict, alcoholism, prison time, homelessness, forgery, and the list goes on. After being verbally abused BAD for so long-I finally told him off last October. He blocked me from his email and blamed it on me, saying I blocked him first-then he accused me of doing drugs and who the hell is he one to talk. I feel like he doesn't even know me. Is it ME??????????? I just sent him a nice email after not talking to him since October. From my account, it was returned, 2x. But when I sent it from another account it went through. SHIT I am so stupid-he doesn't give a shit about me, and I'm not sure if I even want him in my life-he is a con artist and very mean. But, I feel like an ass right now and I need some help here. Did I do the wrong thing? Am I too nice? I'm beginning to think so-because I have 2 friends right now who don't give me the time of day anymore. My brother has been in trouble with the law, and I have had mental problems. Is this how I get treated? I SWEAR I have done nothing wrong except for telling my dad off in October. That's it. I feel like it is a one way street with him and these 2 friends. I have somewhat of a life, my friend is a nurse, and she is busy as heck but we keep in touch, she is a good friend, and a longtime one, and if someone cares at least a call or an email to say-Sorry Ive been busy but how are things with you????
Does ANYONE have any advice PLEASE PLEASE-I am upset.
thanks Kristen
*sigh* on ther verge of getting very angry and saying Fuck these people-I am ok-I didn't do anything wrong. I have people and friends that are kind to me, but my dad , and these 2 friends are about ready to be taken of my "be kind" to list.
HELP! I told a lot in this post-something it has taken me 2 weeks to do. Please help anyone?????????????????????????????????????????
Posted by Alara on March 15, 2003, at 1:38:51
In reply to PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!, posted by Krissy P on March 15, 2003, at 0:47:36
Krissy, I'm so sorry to hear that you've been hurt so badly. A father (no matter what he has done) has a special place in every girl's heart and so this kind of thing is bound to leave you in agony.
First grieve. As hard as it is to do, you need to let yourself work through all the feelings of hurt, grief and anger. Then let it go. He doesn't deserve a place in your life right now, Krissy. Maybe he will earn your respect again one day in the future, but he doesn't deserve you right now.
Don't do it alone. Enlist the help of those friends and/or family members who are being supportive of you. This is a hard thing to do alone and you will need a couple fo shoulders to cry on.
Put yourself first this time. You don't deserve to have your feelings manipulated like this. If you continue to let him affect you like this, you will turn all your anger inwards and will get even more depressed. Do this for yourself.
You have all my sympathy. I am blessed with a wonderful father but understand how hurt you must feel.
Life will go on and you will be OK.
Alara
Posted by Krissy P on March 15, 2003, at 11:22:39
In reply to Re: PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!! » Krissy P, posted by Alara on March 15, 2003, at 1:38:51
Thanks Alara, I'm trying, these things are all I can do, I appreciate your kind words, I'm just going to realize this. It is a pattern of me trying too hard with him and I think it's time to just let it go-like you said. Think about me for once, instead of trying to be at some sort of peace with a person who is immpossible to begin with. My whole family knows what's going on and they know what a jerk he really is a lot of the times.(99%) I just wonder when he's on his death bed, how he'll treat me when I go to see him. Man, this abuse has been going on since I was 13.
thanks again,
Kristen
==================================================================================================> Krissy, I'm so sorry to hear that you've been hurt so badly. A father (no matter what he has done) has a special place in every girl's heart and so this kind of thing is bound to leave you in agony.
>
> First grieve. As hard as it is to do, you need to let yourself work through all the feelings of hurt, grief and anger. Then let it go. He doesn't deserve a place in your life right now, Krissy. Maybe he will earn your respect again one day in the future, but he doesn't deserve you right now.
>
> Don't do it alone. Enlist the help of those friends and/or family members who are being supportive of you. This is a hard thing to do alone and you will need a couple fo shoulders to cry on.
>
> Put yourself first this time. You don't deserve to have your feelings manipulated like this. If you continue to let him affect you like this, you will turn all your anger inwards and will get even more depressed. Do this for yourself.
>
> You have all my sympathy. I am blessed with a wonderful father but understand how hurt you must feel.
>
> Life will go on and you will be OK.
>
> Alara
Posted by Dinah on March 15, 2003, at 11:24:33
In reply to PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!, posted by Krissy P on March 15, 2003, at 0:47:36
Wish I could help. :(
I've got some serious issues with my family as well. My dad has a foul temper and tho he has never hurt a flea in his life, he is always yelling, cursing, and threatening to kill someone or another.
My only (partial) solution is to put distance between us and draw boundaries. I'm afraid I have no better advice to offer.
Posted by sienna on March 15, 2003, at 22:34:46
In reply to PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!, posted by Krissy P on March 15, 2003, at 0:47:36
I know how you feel i have been around the block a bazillion times with my dad. I think you just have to do what feels right and sometimes that takes some time.
Its really hard to have one of the only people whohas known you your whole life be this way to you. I feel your pain.
sienna
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