Posted by Krissy P on March 15, 2003, at 11:22:39
In reply to Re: PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!! » Krissy P, posted by Alara on March 15, 2003, at 1:38:51
Thanks Alara, I'm trying, these things are all I can do, I appreciate your kind words, I'm just going to realize this. It is a pattern of me trying too hard with him and I think it's time to just let it go-like you said. Think about me for once, instead of trying to be at some sort of peace with a person who is immpossible to begin with. My whole family knows what's going on and they know what a jerk he really is a lot of the times.(99%) I just wonder when he's on his death bed, how he'll treat me when I go to see him. Man, this abuse has been going on since I was 13.
thanks again,
Kristen
==================================================================================================> Krissy, I'm so sorry to hear that you've been hurt so badly. A father (no matter what he has done) has a special place in every girl's heart and so this kind of thing is bound to leave you in agony.
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> First grieve. As hard as it is to do, you need to let yourself work through all the feelings of hurt, grief and anger. Then let it go. He doesn't deserve a place in your life right now, Krissy. Maybe he will earn your respect again one day in the future, but he doesn't deserve you right now.
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> Don't do it alone. Enlist the help of those friends and/or family members who are being supportive of you. This is a hard thing to do alone and you will need a couple fo shoulders to cry on.
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> Put yourself first this time. You don't deserve to have your feelings manipulated like this. If you continue to let him affect you like this, you will turn all your anger inwards and will get even more depressed. Do this for yourself.
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> You have all my sympathy. I am blessed with a wonderful father but understand how hurt you must feel.
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> Life will go on and you will be OK.
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> Alara
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