Re: You DON'T Need to understand triggers » JenStar

Posted by alexandra_k on October 15, 2005, at 5:10:19

In reply to Re: You DON'T Need to understand triggers » Deneb, posted by JenStar on October 14, 2005, at 20:26:21

> Manipulative
> being very overly dramatic
I'm not sure how much these terms help...

> But the WAY you ask about it is clearly troubling to more than one poster.
> Alexandra asks if that matters as long as you're staying within civility guidelines. If it matters to YOU, than it might be a sign that you need to change your behavior. If you LIKE the negative attention, then DON'T change your behavior. It depends on what you want and what you get.
Can you think of something that is important to you that results in negative attention from others? If you can't... Then can you imagine a scenario where there could be something that is important to someone that resulted in negative attention from others? Can you imagine cases where the person may be justified in continuing in their behaviour DESPITE it being met with negative reactions from others? And DESPITE their not continuing it with this goal in mind...
> But if you keep posting in the same old ways, you'll get the same old responses. If you want new responses, or to change people's opinions of you on the site, you'll need to change the way you interact. It's that simple.
Or the other option...
Would be to let other people take responsibility for their own responses.
To ignore their posts if they are negative
And trust the PBC Blocking system to interveane if posters get too pushy...
with their attempt to alter ones behaviour...
guilt
guilt
guilt
can be a good way to get someone to do what you want them to do
and how do we decide whether the person should stop their behaviour...
or whether we need to take more responsibility for our responses to it...
maybe if we don't have much that is positive to offer then we could leave posts for other people to offer something positive...
and i guess if the community is at a loss...
then the poster will eventually get sick of being ignored.
but will it come to that?

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Re: Need to understand triggers and suicide » ClearSkies alexandra_k 10/15/05
Re: CLARIFICATION Alexandra » rainbowbrite alexandra_k 10/15/05
Re: You DON'T Need to understand triggers » JenStar alexandra_k 10/15/05
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Thank you NIck! » Nickengland rainbowbrite 10/15/05
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