Posted by alexandra_k on October 13, 2005, at 21:06:14
In reply to Need to understand triggers and suicide, posted by Deneb on October 13, 2005, at 20:42:10
i can only answer for me...
> Why is suicide such a trigger for people?
here is part of my answer:
> I understand about using descriptions of cutting as triggering. They "trigger" people into cutting etc. I don't get it for suicide though.
well... i do. hearing other peoples ideation can trigger off my own. most especially... if i am thinking about it a bit at any rate... then hearing another persons ideation can make my own ideation worse as i internalise (and agree with) their own feeling of despair etc.
> Talking about suicide doesn't trigger me into suicide. Does it trigger you into thinking about committing suicide?
looking at those suicide websites you used to look at... didn't reading what other people had to say about it get you contemplating it more for yourself? make it start to look like more of an option. or more like the only option? or like more of a socially acceptable option?
>I don't understand why people get so upset over this. It is *I* who will die, not *you*.
okay so... think... how would you feel if i killed myself? I'm not going to. but... how would you feel if i died? upset at all?
> I also really really don't understand why people who have lost loved ones to suicide are especially sensitive to suicide triggers.
because it gets them thinking about the person they have lost.
because they may have needed that person and now they are gone.
and anger and frustration and maybe even guilt that they couldn't / didn't do anything to prevent it.
lots of people blame themselves / feel guilty when someone they know kills themselves. they blame themself for not having noticed and not having been able to prevent it and not interveaning in some way.
it brings all that up for them...they become focused on their own distress...
and so i guess... that for people who have lost someone... most often times that becomes a source of trauma for them. and hearing someone else talk about it... can trigger their trauma. and also... when people are distressed themselves most often they lose the ability to focus on another and assist them. so people who have lost someone... are probably more likely to be triggered and are also probably less likely to be able to help you.> Is there something wrong with me if I don't understand the seriousness of suicide?
i never used to get it.
i think you will one day.> Is it bad of me to think about it now?
no.
but i most certainly hope you never do it.
because... i would miss you.
and because it would be a damned shame
a damned waste
because you have a promising future
you are capable of happiness
and you are capable of helping others feel happy
and if you remove yourself from this world then other people miss out on you and your uniqueness and what you have to offer
and its a horrible waste
:-(> Why is it so taboo?
because most people are afraid of death on some level. afraid that someone they love / need will die / leave them. and / or afraid of their own death.
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