Posted by PM80 on June 3, 2005, at 16:03:22
In reply to Re: I need convince Dr. Bob that I'm a good person, posted by Deneb on June 2, 2005, at 23:06:50
You do not need to be a punching bag in order to help others. You do not need to sacrifice yourself for others. It would not be healthy for you and you are just as important as anyone else here. Just give what you can, when you can, and take what is offered when you need it. I think that is all anyone here aspires to. It is a good personal growth thing, though, that you really want to help people. I'm happy for you in this because it will give you real satisfaction in the long-term.
I've always thought for myself that, as an ideal, if I could make someone's life better or worse that I would always want to choose the better, even if that person does not reciprocate. I'm trying to learn how to do that in healthy, non-self-sacrificial way. Hurting and sacrificing myself does not ultimately help others. It's actually a kinda hard lesson in a way.
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