Posted by fi on April 11, 2002, at 10:11:59
In reply to Re: reaction to suicide » Manda, posted by Krazy Kat on April 11, 2002, at 8:34:00
Thinking about it some more, I'm not denying that your close friends/family/colleagues may find your psychological problems a bit burdensome at times (depending if/how you show them). But I can't imagine how that burden could be worse than the permanent burden you leave them with if you kill yourself.
Of the 3 people I have known who killed themselves (all several years ago), I still feel shocked, guilty and sad about the one who was a friend (tho he wasnt even a close one). I hardly knew the others, but still remember the shock to me and everyone who knew them at the time, and feel sad for them now.
That's just my experience, of course. I do understand- very much- how it can seem just too painful to carry on.
But never, ever allow yourself to believe that suicide will relieve the burden on others- and its not just the people who knew you well (tho they will suffer most), but even people who only know you slightly who will be traumatised.
I have also heard that sometimes it can even increase the risk that a relative will do it at some point (particularly children), as the taboo of suicide has been broken in the family. But I dont know if there is hard evidence to back that up.
Fi
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