Posted by Willful on March 9, 2014, at 12:18:38
In reply to Re: My therapist on extended leave, posted by Dinah Seeks Support on March 9, 2014, at 11:33:22
Freudian slips are forgiven!
I don't know if this is an off-the-wall idea, but sometimes when I'm really in pain, I try to find at a comedy whow or a favorite funny movie, which lightens my mood. And this helps. I like Monty Python-- The anger clinic always makes me smile-- and the Daily Show-- but whoever is your favorite---
It is awfully early to get over the anger and disappointment.
I was reading an article yesterday that talked about grieving. It said that the Kuhbler-Ross stages were probably not correct and that studies showed that people grieved more in periods of pain and reawakened vitality that cycled again and again. It said the cycles kept on until the good part of the cycle was longer and the pain cycle was shorter and less intense-- and that it could take a lot of time, or for some lucky few not so much time--but that eventually, the pain was relieved-- and the sense of going on became stronger and stronger.
Its hard, extremely hard, to get through this part-- but you're wise to see this as a death- the loss of a relationship-- and to grieve it as you would any lost deep relationship. Lost relationships are one of the worst, most potentially damaging parts of life-- and there's nothing you can do, but make it through.
I too was wondering-- if he abandons his wife-- who else will he not abandon? So this is who he is-- for better and, in this case, for worse--
but it is what is is-- a very tough and painful road. You'll come out of it stronger I hope-- but it will take time
Emsam.
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