Posted by obsidian on April 2, 2010, at 20:34:48
In reply to Are you selective in making friends?, posted by rnny on April 2, 2010, at 18:59:15
> Or are you willing to be someone's friend just because they look like they need a friend or because they are nice to you? Do you have standards by which you determine who is and who won't be your friend?
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> I'm selective. I don't tolerate any kind of mental issues that the person won't take the time to treat. I don't want their poison dripping into my world.
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> I am taking the time to get treatment for my own psychiatric issues with one goal being to be free from unacceptable behaviors that might infringe upon the rights of others.
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> And I expect the same from people I make friends with. For them to act in a way that does not disrupt or impede the progress I have made and am making in psychotherapy.
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> There are friends and there are acquaintances. And they are not the same!yeah, I'd say I'm pretty selective. I think I'm pleasant enough, but not overly friendly, maybe hard to get to know. I like a lot of people though, but I'm careful.
I do have some really awesome friends though, they really are amazing people, and some pretty great acquaintances, but the ones that I am really friends with are usually ones that happen to share some of my interests.
They are creative, kind, smart, passionate, sensitive, honest, moral, freaking talented and very bright people, warm and capable of caring and trusting relationships. Did I choose them because of that?
hmmmm....I dunno, maybe I was just lucky?
I know that when I've had a friend that I didn't really feel a connection with, I just sort of let it fade away. It's had to do with me feeling they were judgmental or really selfish or that they were "better" than me.Do my friends have issues? well yes, it makes them more interesting of course...sucks for us in general though!
there are many types of psychological issues though...so yeah, if someone were toxic to me I wouldn't be friends with them. I'm not a masochist (in that regard anyway). I don't invite relationships that are hurtful to me.
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